I don't know if this goes well with what I am going to write down later but I have ever read an article that says, to become a person who is well-liked by others, one has to learn to listen because everyone likes to talk about themselves. Give them the stage and that's the ticket to their inner life. Then again, just being a listener is not enough if I do not empathize, which is something I have always lack of. Listening is just an act of being nice while being empathy is an act of a sincere friend. I learned to be a sincere friend and truly empathize for/with them after these two trips. I wanna write them down here so that I will never forget such an important yet can be easily taken for granted gift.
In Bangkok, on a plane back to Singapore, a friend shared with me about her relationship with her father. Like many other families, father is just someone who brings back monthly allowance for the family. Her's is no different. However, their relationship had a slight turn when her grandmother passed away. That was her first time she saw her father teared. Soon after that incident, one of her friend studying the same course as her committed suicide due to depression. She tried as much as she can to overcome her grief till one day she broke down in tears in front of her father. That was the point when their relationship became one that is envied by many of us, and which her friends assumed that her father has been doting on her since young... which is not true. I also began to understand the meaning of "when you lose something, you gain something in return."
Another friend of mine had just lost a friendship before we went to Korea. Or maybe, I should say that their friendship is never the same as before. I don't know how to comfort her because I'm really not good in such things. I gave her a slice of cake which I have no idea if it tasted good. I gave her hugs which I don't know if she needs them. But I'm glad to hear that she is fine now :) Soon, as we traveled to Korea, she began to see problems in her love relationship. It's not quarrel, it's just... I don't know how to explain either but I do understand what's going on. Listening to her story and the struggles she faced, I realized that her love life, which I have always envied, aren't that flawless. At some point of time, I saw reflection of my past in her stories. Well, eventually everything went well with her boyfriend after they talked things out together :) Maybe my wish for her on the wishing wall at 63 building came true!
15 May 2011
If the wishes here ever come true...my wish for a friend is... may she be happy, succeed in whatever she does, & there's always someone by her side whenever she's down & gives her the courage to move on... & her love ones to be healthy and well. May all her dreams come true. :)
If I have known a Korean friend of mine earlier, I could have probably writen a note for her on the wishing wall too. I met this Korean friend during the last few days of our trip & she's a cheerful and bubbly girl who aspires to become a custom officer. We met up with her again on our last night in Korea & realized that she broke up two months ago & has yet to draw her emotions out of the situation. Her friends have been telling her that she deserves better and she should forget about the heartless man. But from the bottom of my heart, I bet that if such things were to happen on her friends, they wouldn't say such things. After we came back to Singapore, I was told that the heartless man got himself a new girlfriend and have been together for a month. I know love cannot be forced but, they had been together for a year & within a month after breakup, he got himself a new girl?! I can really feel her pain & how I wish I'm in Korea now to give her some comfort. I began to realized how little I can do for her even though I empathize for her and wish to do more. If I could write a note for her on the wishing wall...
30 May 2011
May this friend of mine be able to stand up and move out of the tragedy... I wish for her to have at least a sincere friend who's by her side to support her and give her the courage to move on. I know in this world, there isn't a single relationship without challenges and problems, but may her next soulmate be someone who's willing to go through the hard times with her and never abandon her to manage the stress and consequences alone. May she be happy, healthy, bubbly and cheerful soon.
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